It’s been a long time since I’ve posted a blog. Like many of you, I live a crazy fast paced life and I’m never in one place for long.
I’ve had a lot on my mind lately as I gear up for next season. To keep it simple, I’m just going to focus on one thing; One thing that I’ve learned in the past three years.
After the 2014 games; there was a lot of heartbreak, self-doubt, and broken body parts. To say I was crushed and disappointed in my performance was an understatement. Going back into competition after meant that I not only needed to grow as an athlete, but also as a human being.
I own up to the fact that I’ve made mistakes along the way. They were my mistakes to make. I learned from them, I grew from them. But I was recently told that I have a reputation of being ungrateful. While I don’t know the context of that claim, I have always strive to treat others the way I wish to be treated; with respect and gratitude.
So hearing this was deeply painful.
I recognize that I am naturally stubborn. It is both a blessing and a curse. I’m not always quick to forgive others attitude towards me. Growing up I was taught that forgiveness must be earned; but as an adult, I have learned that few people in this world humble themselves enough to earn it.
Part of the #adulting thing is being humble enough to put your feelings aside and show gratitude regardless of the circumstances or blame. When people believe they’ve already helped you (even if they haven’t) they are far more likely to allow you to help them, help you. Did you follow that? It’s an ironic concept and I’m still working it out myself. It’s one of those theories you find in books about “the world’s most successful people.”
Help people, help you. First, If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. Say you put yourself out there and the answer was still no. You now have a choice. You can either get angry, throw a tantrum, vent on facebook and cry yourself to sleep; or, you can try again. This is the part that I struggle with.
Naturally, we all forgive and grow in our own time. Sometimes, it takes me longer to “get over it,” than it should. And while I’m busy getting over it; the world moves. Instead, I’m striving to replace my emotional response with gratitude and recognize a better way of handling difficult situations.
I recently read a quote that said, “With the most corrupt person, you can be honest. With the most angry person, you can be cool. With the most insulting person you can be graceful. If the balance of your personality and your sensitivity can remain under your control and projection, then you have learned the art of living.”
I want to be clear that learning this lesson and putting it into practice are two very different things. For now, I’ll be practicing. #LifeGoals #MentalToughness